Friday, December 19, 2014

Von Gutenberg Launches New “Fifty Ways To Please Your Lover Collection”


 
Von Gutenberg Launches New “Fifty Ways To Please Your Lover Collection”

When news hit just this week that the male star of the upcoming “Fifty Shades of Grey” movie, Jamie Dornan (Mr. Grey himself), admitted visiting SM clubs for ‘research’ on the film adaptation of the super popular E.L. James novel, we were all reminded how much this modern story of kink has slipped into our lives. Whether you have devoured the trilogy or only have heard of it in passing, the truth is that things slightly non-vanilla have seeped a little further into the mainstream because of it. In keeping with this ‘trending’ and with an eye always on an alternative approach to fantasy, lifestyle and fashion Von Gutenberg presents their Fifty Ways To Please Tour Lover collection. See it here directly at the Von Gutenberg shop: http://vongutenbergcouture.com/home.php?cat=306.

From the mild to the wild, this new line of Von Gutenberg items for adults skirt the 'bound'-dries of fetish, add to kinky bedroom fun and bring a friskiness to flirting and foreplay. With all the pieces in the collection made from hypoallergenic materials, these implements and items are as sturdy as they are aesthetically alluring; you can’t miss with what’s on sale here.

There is an English Tawse, blindfolds, full kits of beginner kink items; collars and cuffs for various body parts; electro-play pieces and even strait jackets. As Von Gutenberg already manages with fantasy couture (see here to access their latex wardrobe outfits and accessories: http://vongutenbergcouture.com/) they are presenting a wide array of stuff for the kink connoisseur as well as the novice with this new collection.

As the only global source for latex fashion through their quarterly magazine (issue #9 of Von Gutenberg with cover girl Sabina Kelley will hit early 2015) and web presence, Von Gutenberg are working hard to be the one-stop shop for all that latex fashionistas and fans of the alternative could possibly want in their extra-curricular fun.

Indulge your senses and dreams in the new Von Gutenberg Fifty Ways To Please Your Lover Collection.

All Media Inquires, write Ralph at editor@vongutenberg.com

 

 

Thursday, December 11, 2014

What Am I Paying For?


This money thing keeps rearing its ugly head. It’s one of those subjects like religion and politics I was taught not to speak about in polite company. But as we are all friends here and God knows none of us polite, and this money thing keep rearing its ugly head when it comes to this writing thing I am expounding on here, well, we are back to that money thing again.
This time though, I’m not complaining about not getting paid or paid too little for what we do, but I am railing against having to actually pay for what we do.
If you have ever been in/near/or even sniffed around your local rock and roll scene you’ll have heard the term ‘pay to play,’ It’s an hidden little nugget of the-way-of-the-game that bands just starting out (or even playing for a while with only local success) often have to guarantee a certain draw (people coming out to see them) so these people will buy tickets, booze, food at the venue, in effect, paying the band’s salary for the night. In some instances (and this is true, I swear it) a band has to pay money upfront to play a prestigious venue, and hope to get that fee back in tickets sales later. Or sometimes just pay outright with no percentage of the door, no money coming back at all.
The same happens for us scribes. We either ‘pay to play’ by enduring a trial period where we work for free with the supposed hope that come 3-6 months time our labors will be accessed and a possible salary given us (if we prove we are good enough) or we actually have to pay a fee to submit our work (I see this quite a bit with play submissions, the tariff a supposed “administration fee” for accepting the plays, running the theatre, etc.) Most striking to me in this built-on-a-house-of-cards-which-are-really-$20-dollar-bills petard was when I noticed that the venerable Writer’s Digest Fiction contest requires a fee to submit.
http://www.writersdigest.com/competitions/short-short-story-competition?et_mid=708591&rid=239535855
Yes, there is a $300 prize give to the winner (plus a few other goodies) but I say forget if WD is collecting a fee to afford the $300 then forget the $300 and let me submit with the chance of being published in the mag (which is one of the goodies.) Certainly they make the mag anyway, they wouldn’t need my fee for administration costs, would they? Or does running a contest require such added person hours that submitters’ fees covers the extra cost of paying people?

The rule of thumb when seeking an agent or manager is never pay anyone upfront for them attempting to exploit your talent. Agents and managers should make their percentage off of the work they get you. I’d say the same is true for us writers…do not work for free, but more than that, do not ‘pay to play,’ send someone money to either publish you or consider your work.

Wednesday, November 26, 2014

The NEXT Leather, Lace & Lust: An Evening Of Erotic Storytelling and Sexual Merriment!

(from M.Christian's Classes And Appearances)

Check it out: coming up is the next installment in the regular Leather, Lace & Lust: An Evening Of Erotic Storytelling and Sexual Merriment event ... sponsored by the great folks at WriteSex! 

See you there!



Come one, come all* to an evening of lusty literature by many of the best erotica writers in the Bay Area!

From the tempting tease of delicate lace to the steamy heat of hardcore leather, these authors and performers will amuse, delight, and most of all excite you in all kinds of new and provocative ways; This is an evening of witty, carnal, and provocative literary endeavors that will tickle just about every kind of fancy, a festival of playful sensual fiction that will make you laugh, cry, and get that oh-so-special tingly feeling in your nether-regions.

In other words, a night of kick-ass erotica performed by ass-kicking writers!

Sponsored by WriteSex: Everything a writer needs to know about the business of publishing erotica!

Our featured performers include:

Suz deMello, a.k.a Sue Swift, is a best-selling, award-winning author of seventeen romance novels in several subgenres, including erotica, comedy, historical, paranormal, mystery and suspense, plus a number of short stories and non-fiction articles on writing.

Molly Weatherfield: "Twenty years ago, a mild-mannered computer programmer decided to spend some quality time with her erotic fantasy life, and Carrie's Story - BDSM for smart girls - was born."

Mistress Lorelei Powers is a well-known bi poly sadist and Domme. She is the author of several BDSM classics, including On Display, The Mistress Manual, and Charm School for Sissy Maids.

Blake C. Aarens is an author, poet, screenwriter, playwright, and a Black Girl Nerd.

Jean Marie Stine is the author of a number of pioneering works of erotica published in the late 1960 and early 1970s, beginning with Season of the Witch in 1968, which was filmed as the motion picture Synapse. Her erotic short stories and novelettes have been collected as "Trans-sexual: Fiction for Gender Queers."

Xan West refuses pronouns, twists barbed wire together with yearning, and tilts pain in many directions to catch the light. Xan adores vulnerable tops, strong supportive bottoms, queer activist communities, red meat, and cool, dark, quiet rooms with comfortable beds.

M.Christian is a recognized master of erotica with more than 400 stories in such anthologies as Best American Erotica, Best Gay Erotica, Best Lesbian Erotica, Best Bisexual Erotica, Best Fetish Erotica and many others.

Saturday, December 6th
The Center For Sex And Culture
1349 Mission St, San Francisco, CA 94103
Doors at 6:30PM, Event starts at 7:30PM
Admission: $10

*no guarantees

Thursday, November 20, 2014

Jean Marine Stine & I: Using Social Media To Grow Your Adult Business And Build Your Client Base - The Working Smarter And Not Harder Way!

(from M.Christian's Classes And Appearances)

Okay, I know I say this a lot but this is very, very, very cool: I'm going to be joining my great pal, Jean Marie Stine, in doing a class on PR and adult business for the Center For Sex And Culture on Nov. 29th. Here's the info:


Using Social Media To Grow Your Adult Business And Build Your Client Base - The Working Smarter And Not Harder Way...

... for Retailers, Therapists, Photographers, Video Makers, Sex Workers, Writers & Others

Nov 29, 2014 2:00 PM - 4:00PM
Center for Sex and Culture
1349 Mission St,
San Francisco, CA 94103
$20

Let's face facts: the adult business world has totally, completely changed marketing and advertising tricks that used to work simply don't anymore ... which is why, more than ever, thinking outside the box is key to raising above the rest and, best of all, bring in exposure and, hopefully, sales.

Twitter? Tumblr? Facebook? While there are a lot of options, many of the techniques that a lot of gurus and experts recommend only work for those same experts and gurus ... and not for anyone else.

But in this fun and provocative lecture you'll learn to learn the differences between what other people say you should do and what actually works including when to play by the rules and when not to, how to rise above the rest, and how to manage your marketing time and dollars.

Among some of the subjects covered will be:
  • How to blog, tweet and post effectively and efficiently
  • How to handle fast media like Twitter versus slower ones like Facebook
  • When national social media is what you want and when it's something you don't need
  • The power of FREE
  • Knowing your audience ... and developing great techniques to reach them
  • Understanding the difference between likes, friends and actual sales
  • How to make your social media presence rich and interesting without taking valuable time away from your company
  • How to think innovatively about advertising, public relations, and marketing that don't involve social media or even the internet
Jean Marie Stine is the author of a number of pioneering works of erotica published in the late 1960 and early 1970s, beginning with Season of the Witch in 1968, which was filmed as the motion picture Synapse. Her erotic short stories and novelettes have been collected as "Trans-sexual: Fiction for Gender Queers." She is the Publisher of Renaissance E Books, which includes the Sizzler Editions imprint of premier and groundbreaking erotica

M.Christian is a recognized master of erotica with more than 400 stories in such anthologies as Best American Erotica, Best Gay Erotica, Best Lesbian Erotica, Best Bisexual Erotica, Best Fetish Erotica and many others. He is a sexuality and BDSM educator for venues all across the country -- and an Associate Publisher for Renaissance E Books.

Saturday, November 15, 2014

This Tuesday: Creative Sex Play At Good Vibrations!

(from M.Christian's Classes And Appearances)

This is going to be a real blast - come if you can to hear little ol' me chat about sex and creativity!



Even the most experienced sexual adventurer may run short of ... shall we say 'inspiration'? In this wild and provocative seminar with noted erotic writer and teacher M.Christian, participants will not just learn all kind of new techniques and sexual worlds to explore and do that exploration safely (both physically as well as emotionally) -- but they will also have lots of fun with various techniques to expand their basic imagination muscles: picking up new and enjoyable games to help them add a lot more to their lives and not just their bedroom play.

About the presenter:

M.Christian has been an active participant in the San Francisco BDSM scene since 1988, and has been a featured presenter at the Northwest Leather Celebration, smOdyssey, the Center For Sex and Culture, The National Sexuality Symposium, QSM, San Francisco Sex Information, The Citadel, The Looking Glass, The Society of Janus, The Floating World, Winter Solstice, and lots of other venues. He has taught classes on everything from impact play, tit torture, bondage, how to write and sell erotica, polyamory, cupping, caning, and basic SM safety.

M.Christian is also a recognized master of BDSM erotica with more than 400 stories in such anthologies as Best American Erotica, Best Gay Erotica, Best Lesbian Erotica, Best Bisexual Erotica, Best Fetish Erotica, and many other anthologies, magazines, and other sites; editor of 2t anthologies such as the Best S/M Erotica series, Pirate Booty, My Love For All That Is Bizarre: Sherlock Holmes Erotica, and more; the collections Dirty Words, The Bachelor Machine, Love Without Gun Control, Rude Mechanicals, and more; and the novels Running Dry, The Very Bloody Marys, Me2, Finger's Breadth, Brushes, and Painted Doll. His site is www.mchristian.com

Good Vibrations Polk Street Store
1620 Polk Street (at Sacramento Street)
San Francisco, CA 94109

$20.00 or $25 at the door, as space allows

Tuesday, November 11, 2014

The Enormous Waste Of Time Joining The Conversation


I made the mistake of getting embroiled in a thread/talk back/posting discussion on Xbiz today. I happen to like Xbiz very much, receive one or two email updates a day from them and occasionally will look over a discussion, especially if it is about the adult business. The mistake I made today was twofold…1.) I commented on and therefore got sucked into a political discussion, a subject I usually have no care or knowledge of and 2.) I got involved at all.
I am not a member of, ‘on,’ use, enjoy Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, Linked-In and any other social media. Nor will I ever be. I admit to a passing interest in Facebook way back when, but soon deleted my account (although Facebook is still emailing me about messages I haven’t read…but is this really Facebook doing this I wonder?). I got myself off of Linked-In as well, although I still get emails to join to other Linked-in profiles. I know plenty of people on these social networks, who use them for business and pleasure and who spend what I would consider big globs of time communicating this way. Bully for them, but it ain’t for me, and in fact, with what happened to me on Xbiz today I realize more than ever that joining the conversation is really an enormous waste of time.
What conversation you ask? Any really. Or more precisely, those coming at us across the web from people we don’t know (hopefully the messages/posts and emails you’re getting are at least from people you do know.) What tripped me up here was throwing my hat into the ring with a bunch of strangers I truly don’t know or care about, nor they me. At least with a friend or relative you or they can stop things from going on too long with a “Got to get back to work here.” or a, “Fuck you asshole…but tell mom I’ll see her at six for dinner.” And yes, one could easily beg off posting, twatting, texting, etc. at anytime with anyone (and it should be easy to do so with people simply trolling an Xbiz board who don’t know you or them) but I opine (and certainly found out the hard way today) that when you join a conversation with net-only friends or like-minded collegues you really don’t know, you are even more tempted to stay with it because you feel part of a great community ‘out there’ in a way you don’t with your cousin or bestie.
This is the false promise of the web of course. How we are all coming closer in a world enjoying blistering fast communication that can reach anywhere at any time. How the supposed dissemination of information makes us all equal in the participation life’s living. How no man, woman or child will ever again be without a voice and how we can join-in the human experience in ways….yeah, yeah yeah. All this and a nickel still won’t buy you a cup of coffee.
Listen close now because I am imparting a truth you might not want to face, nor ever considered, but…there is no community, the net does not make your life better (in fact, it a great many ways it is making your life a whole lot worse) and if ‘it’, whatever it is, is posted on Facebook or said across Twitter or on a newsgroup, it’s not important in the least. I know, I know, this is a hard pill to swallow, but there is no there there. Yes, there are people behind those tweets, Facebook friends of your friends who friend you might call themselves your friends, but these are not ‘real’ people to you nor are you to them?

I’m not saying stop Instagramming, Twatting, Facebooking (though I will damn sure never get myself into a posting back and forth convo again). I’m just trying to impart the one truth I found today and know is certain for all of us as man marches further into his extinction…that conversation going on ‘out there’ is a waste of time.

Friday, November 7, 2014

Tuesday, Nov, 11th: Sensual Caning: How To Use The Rod In New And Exciting Ways

(from M.Christian's Classes And Appearances)

This is going to be a blast!


Sensual Caning: How To Use The Rod In New And Exciting Ways

SF Citadel
181 Eddy St, San Francisco, CA

Cost: $20 at the door, $15 in advance

The cane is one of those 'legendary' BDSM toys that is far too often used with dramatic flare – rather than erotic effectiveness. In this very special class, cane wielders will learn the difference between using a rod as a prop and, instead, how to use various types of cane (wood versus plastic, thin versus thick, etc) to send the receiver to new erotic heights. With this unique – and sensual - technique even those scared of the rod will be enticed to being on the receiving end of the not-so-scary cane.

Class from 8-10pm, doors open at 7:30pm
Cost: $20 at the door, $15 in advance via PurplePass: http://www.purplepass.com/sfc11112014

About the presenter:
M. Christian has been an active participant in the San Francisco BDSM scene since 1988, and has been a featured presenter at the Northwest Leather Celebration, smOdyssey, the Center For Sex and Culture, The National Sexuality Symposium, QSM, San Francisco Sex Information, The Citadel, The Looking Glass, The Society of Janus, The Floating World, Winter Solstice, and lots of other venues. He has taught classes on everything from impact play, tit torture, bondage, how to write and sell erotica, polyamory, cupping, caning, and basic SM safety.

M. Christian is also a recognized master of BDSM erotica with more than 400 stories in such anthologies as Best American Erotica, Best Gay Erotica, Best Lesbian Erotica, Best Bisexual Erotica, Best Fetish Erotica, and many other anthologies, magazines, and other sites; editor of 2t anthologies such as the Best S/M Erotica series, Pirate Booty, My Love For All That Is Bizarre: Sherlock Holmes Erotica, and more; the collections Dirty Words, The Bachelor Machine, Love Without Gun Control, Rude Mechanicals, and more; and the novels Running Dry, The Very Bloody Marys, Me2, Finger's Breadth, Brushes, and Painted Doll. His site is www.mchristian.com

Sunday, October 26, 2014

Coming Up - Sex Sells: How To Write And Sell Erotica @ Center For Sex And Culture

(from M.Christian's Classes And Appearances)

There's special and then there's special: I'm going to be teaching my celebrated (if I do say so myself) class in advanced smut writing, Sex Sells: How To Write And Sell Erotica, for the Center For Sex and Culture on Wednesday, November 5th!

http://www.amazon.com/dp/B006YGDE6G/ref=cm_sw_su_dp

The market for erotic fiction and nonfiction is booming! There actually is a secret to writing great erotica - and you'll discover just what that is in this fun, hands-on workshop with well-known erotica writer and teacher M.Christian.

For the beginning writer, erotica can be the ideal place to begin writing, getting published, and - best of all - earning money. And for the experienced writer, erotica can be an excellent way to beef up your resume and hone your writing skills. M.Christian will review the varieties of personal and literary expression possible in this exciting and expanding field. He'll also teach you techniques for creating love and sex scenes that sizzle.

Plus: current pay rates, how to write for a wide variety of erotic genres, where and how to submit your erotic writing, and more.

Sex Sells: How To Write And Sell Erotica
The Center for Sex and Culture
1349 Mission St.
San Francisco, CA 94103

Wednesday, November 5th

6:00PM to 8:00PM

$20 (purchase pre-event tickets here)


M.Christian has been an active participant in the San Francisco BDSM scene since 1988, and has been a featured presenter at the Northwest Leather Celebration, smOdyssey, the Center For Sex and Culture, The National Sexuality Symposium, San Francisco Sex Information, The Citadel, The Looking Glass, Floating World, Winter Solstice, and lots of other venues. He has taught classes on everything from impact play, tit torture, bondage, polyamory, cupping, caning, and basic SM safety.

M.Christian is also a recognized master of BDSM erotica with more than 400 stories in such anthologies as Best American Erotica, Best Gay Erotica, Best Lesbian Erotica, Best Bisexual Erotica, Best Fetish Erotica, and many other anthologies, magazines, and other sites; editor of 2t anthologies such as the Best S/M Erotica series, Pirate Booty, My Love For All That Is Bizarre: Sherlock Holmes Erotica, and more; the collections Dirty Words, The Bachelor Machine, Love Without Gun Control, Rude Mechanicals, and more; and the novels Running Dry, The Very Bloody Marys, Me2, Finger's Breadth, Brushes, and Painted Doll. His site is www.mchristian.com

Wednesday, October 22, 2014

Pay Me


I got over (well, maybe not completely over) the scam of a potential employer asking for a 150 (or more) word “sample” and I know one has to pay one’s dues, as with any profession, working shit jobs for shit money. But please, don’t fool me with the promise of  a great ‘paying’ writing job if and when what I send you wins a contest…and that you actually have a calculable average amount of contest money you consistently pay to your writers.
And don’t give me the smoke-up-the-ass boast that being published on your not-even-live-yet web portal will have me being seen by untold millions because your new idea/social reach/web idea is just so fantastic I’ll be happy just to be part of it (and yeah, don’t bother with that ‘stick with us, the big bucks are coming, this idea is just too good’ b.s. either.)
I know at this point your money is tapped. Maybe you’re paying a developer buddy with an ownership percentage in your new business or took a loan to get the site up to this point. Why then do you feel you are entitled to ask for writing work for free? Yeah, I get it, you write, everybody these days writes, right? The way you see it it, why should you pay for something everybody could do right; hell, if you had the time you’d write the copy/blog/article yourself. But you know deep down that your writing (at least writing for your own site) is going to suck, that’s why you are reaching out to professionals…and you’re smart to do so. But writers, like your website developer, your hosting company, etc. need to be paid.
So pay us.

I hate to be so blunt but…I don’t give a rat’s dingus about your business, not until you pay me to work for your business. Then I will deliver my best to you, as I always do. But until then, you’re just another pimp out there selling your wares, not unique and certainly not worth giving you my services and skills, unless you respect those services and skills enough to…pay me.

Sunday, October 12, 2014

Reminder: Polyamory: How To Love Many And Well @ Good Vibrations, this Thursday!

(from M.Christian's Classes And Appearances)

This is gonna be a blast!  I'm going to be teaching my class Polyamory: How To Love Many And Well at the Polk Street Good Vibrations store on Thursday, September 16th - see you there!



Sure, you've heard of itand maybe have been intrigued by itbut what is polyamory and how do you love more than one person and make it work? How can you deal with jealousy, time-management, emotional rough patches, and more to enter into multiple sexual relationships?

In this class with M.Christian, participants will learn to separate the myths from the realities of polyamory, how to make tentative steps towards having more than one partner, and how to approach and deal with the problems of sharing yourself with others, and being involved with someone who, in turn, is involved with someone else.

Included in this class will be simple emotional exercises, true life experiences, unique techniques and innovative approaches to understanding the joys and the risks of entering into a polyamorous relationship.

Good Vibrations Polk Street Store
1620 Polk Street (at Sacramento Street)
San Francisco, CA 94109


$20.00 or $25 at the door, as space allows

Wednesday, October 1, 2014

How To Create An Effective Online Profile - October 9th, at the Center For Sex And Culture!

(from M.Christian's Classes And Appearances)

This is going to be a lot of fun: I'm going to be teaching my popular - and entertaining (if I say so myself) class in online dating for the great Center For Sex And Culture in San Francisco on October 9th. See you there!


How To Create An Effective Online Profile – 
And How To Write Messages That Will Get Good Responses
Oct 09, 2014 6:00 PM - 8:00PM
The Center For Sex And Culture
1349 Mission Street
San Francisco, CA 94103
United States

$20 (at the door or pre-sales)

The world is the now the Internet ... and if you don't know how to use it then you are at a serious disadvantage in making any kind of connection: employment, social, artistic and – most of all – erotic. In this class, M. Christian will not just explore how to use the Internet and various sites as a resource to explore your own sexuality in any form, but also how to create an effective and alluring online profile. But creating a digital 'self' is only part of it: participants will also get tips on how to reach out in imaginative ways that will get a positive response, the important things that are too often forgotten and other social niceties that can be the difference between frustration and disappointment and having a wonderful and sexy time online!

Sunday, September 28, 2014

Next Polyamory Discussion/Support Group At The Citadel

Just wanted to share the cool news that the next Polyamory Support/Discussion Group is coming up on Monday, September 29th

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Polyamory Discussion/Support Group

SF Citadel
181 Eddy Street,
San Francisco, CA

Polyamory is – not to state the obvious – complex. But what is even more challenging is that it is still not wildly accepted, with those in non-monogamous relationships often finding it difficult to find understanding and support. In this discussion/support group, polyamorous individuals and couples will have a nonjudgmental and supportive environment to share their concerns and experiences.

All Discussion/Support Groups are from 7:30PM to 9:30PM and cost $10

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M.Christian has been an active participant in the San Francisco BDSM scene since 1988, and has been a featured presenter at the Northwest Leather Celebration, smOdyssey, the Center For Sex and Culture, The National Sexuality Symposium, San Francisco Sex Information, The Citadel, The Looking Glass, The Society of Janus, The Floating World, Winter Solstice, and lots of other venues. He has taught classes on everything from impact play, tit torture, bondage, how to write and sell erotica, polyamory, cupping, caning, and basic SM safety.

M.Christian is also a recognized master of BDSM erotica with more than 400 stories in such anthologies as Best American Erotica, Best Gay Erotica, Best Lesbian Erotica, Best Bisexual Erotica, Best Fetish Erotica, and many other anthologies, magazines, and other sites; editor of 2t anthologies such as the Best S/M Erotica series, Pirate Booty, My Love For All That Is Bizarre: Sherlock Holmes Erotica, and more; the collections Dirty Words, The Bachelor Machine, Love Without Gun Control, Rude Mechanicals, and more; and the novels Running Dry, The Very Bloody Marys, Me2, Finger's Breadth, Brushes, and Painted Doll. His site is www.mchristian.com

Friday, September 19, 2014

I'm Going To CONVOLUTION!

(from M.Christian's Classes And Appearances)


Wheee ... this is going to be a real treat: I'm going to be attending and participating is a ton of panels for the Burlingame, CA, science fiction convention, CONVOLUTION.  

Here's my schedule ... see you there!




Friday 4-6 
20 Books To Launch In To Space


Friday 8-10 
Kink: The Good, The Bad And 50 Shades Of Grey


Saturday 10-12 
How To Build A Better Story


Saturday 1-4 
Writers Workshop


Saturday 10 PM 
Turning The Heat Up Beyond Time And Space


Sunday 12-2 
Reading #5 (Never On A Sunday)


Sunday 2-4 
"New Adult" - Is This A Real Thing?

Thursday, September 18, 2014

Coming Up: Basic Bondage: Tie Me Up On A Budget

(from M.Christian's Classes And Appearances)

This is going to be a blast! I'm teaching by very fun class, Basic Bondage: Tie Me Up On A Budget, for the great SF Citadel on Tuesday, September 23rd. Here's the info - hope to see you there!


Tuesday, September 23, 2014 · 8:00 PM –10:00 PM
Location: SF Citadel​, ​181 Eddy St, San Francisco, CA
Cost: $20 at the door, $15 in advance

Description:

Let's face it, SM - especially bondage play - can be pricy: steel shackles, leather restraints, handcuffs, and other fun things don't come cheap. But in this class students will learn that tying someone up doesn't mean you have to break the bank. From Saran Wrap to Bungie cord, duct tape to clothesline, and more students will learn all kinds of tricks and techniques to not only restrain on a budget but how to do it safely as well as effectively ... and enjoyably!

About the presenter:

M. Christian has been an active participant in the San Francisco BDSM scene since 1988, and has been a featured presenter at the Northwest Leather Celebration, smOdyssey, the Center For Sex and Culture, The National Sexuality Symposium, QSM, San Francisco Sex Information, The Citadel, The Looking Glass, The Society of Janus, The Floating World, Winter Solstice, and lots of other venues. He has taught classes on everything from impact play, tit torture, bondage, how to write and sell erotica, polyamory, cupping, caning, and basic SM safety.

M. Christian is also a recognized master of BDSM erotica with more than 400 stories in such anthologies as Best American Erotica, Best Gay Erotica, Best Lesbian Erotica, Best Bisexual Erotica, Best Fetish Erotica, and many other anthologies, magazines, and other sites; editor of 2t anthologies such as the Best S/M Erotica series, Pirate Booty, My Love For All That Is Bizarre: Sherlock Holmes Erotica, and more; the collections Dirty Words, The Bachelor Machine, Love Without Gun Control, Rude Mechanicals, and more; and the novels Running Dry, The Very Bloody Marys, Me2, Finger's Breadth, Brushes, and Painted Doll. His site is www.mchristian.com

And Not A Penny More By R.Greco, Jr.

And Not A Penny More

Every damn day I see a plethora of blogs with titles like “5 Top Reasons Why Hot Sauce Should Not Be Used As Lube’ or “The 10 Best Vacation Resorts for 3somes” (goes to show what I’m searching the web for, huh?) In the world of sound-bite net writing we seem to be taking our information as we are everything else, quickly, in snippets and clearly defined so we don’t have to do all that much heavy lifting when we get round to reading. And as those “5 best of lists” so easily remind us, we might not be being doing all that much heavy lifting when writing either.

But need we be? I am all for doing the very best job you can do, but a writer over-burdening him or herself with too much on their plate when they have only been paid to fill half the plate might want to consider doing the job asked of them, then moving on to find other jobs. There is nothing wrong with being like mercury and filling the vessel of what’s needed, performing the job not exactly to the very zenith of your powers, but to just what is required, giving the buyer what they want and not a penny more. Does this fly in the face of doing a job well done? No. Would one be slacking if they don’t just do that extra bit? I don’t think so. In fact, it shows you can work to the exact perimeter of the job asked of you but if more is needed, doesn’t it make sense in your dollar and cents-ibility that you are paid for the more you do?

I personally find pricing my work, determining how much my time/effort is worth, is the hardest thing I do. But I currently have no agent and I have to fend for myself to make my daily bread because no one else is doing it for me. It’s a tough lesson to learn to be sure but in the end do what you are paid for and if more needs to be done, I say charge for it.

Believe me, there are plenty of people out there who’d be happy not pay you at all.

Want to learn how to get paid for what you write? Join Chris and I here for our classes!

Monday, September 15, 2014

COPE Was A Blast!

(M.Christian's Classes And Appearances)


Just wanted to toss out a heartfelt and very enthusiastic THANKS to all the fun folks I met at COPE ( - plus the great attendees to my classes - and ESPECIALLY to the organizers of this amazing events. It was a blast and then some!!



Tuesday, September 2, 2014

I'm Going To COPE!



There's cool then there's cool: the great folks at COPE (

Sex Magic: Manifesting Positive Life Energy Through Erotic Play
Sex, without a doubt, is a powerful personal force: it has the ability to not only give tremendous pleasure but also lift us up beyond our normal selves, and sometimes even to higher states of consciousness. Whether through sex with a partner or via masturbation, this class will explore how sex can be used to explore sometimes hidden spiritual and sensual dimensions, grow as a sexual being, manifest positive life-changing energy, or simply have a lot of wonderfully erotic fun! But sex also has its emotional risks as well, and participants will also learn how to protect themselves as they explore sex magic and deal with sometimes shocking revelations about who they are as a sexual being.

You Want To Do What? Sex & BDSM Scenes
Even though it is often seen as 'alternative sexuality' a lot of people in the BDSM community are often baffled by how to include direct sexual activity into their scenes. From STC (Sexually Transmitted Condition) concerns to issues of intimacy, to switching from the intensity of hardcore play to the intensity of sexual contact, this class and discussion will playfully but restfully give examples of how erotic play can be added into BDSM activities in a physical as well as emotionally safe way – as well as being able to handle the sometimes unexpected emotions that can come up for even the most seasoned of BDSM aficionado when sexuality enters the mix.

Thursday, August 28, 2014

Reminder: Leather, Lace & Lust: An Evening Of Erotic Storytelling and Sexual Merriment

This is going to be a blast-and-a-half!  I'm helping to organize a fabulous reading at the Center For Sex And Culture on August 30th.  I'll be performing with all kinds of great erotica readers - it should be an amazing time!


http://www.sexandculture.org/


Leather, Lace & Lust: An Evening Of Erotic Storytelling and Sexual Merriment

Come one, come all* to an evening of lusty literature by many of the best erotica writers in the Bay Area!

From the tempting tease of delicate lace to the steamy heat of hardcore leather, these authors and performers will amuse, delight, and most of all excite you in all kinds of new and provocative ways; This is an evening of witty, carnal, and provocative literary endeavors that will tickle just about every kind of fancy, a festival of playful sensual fiction that will make you laugh, cry, and get that oh-so-special tingly feeling in your nether-regions.

In other words, a night of kick-ass erotica performed by ass-kicking writers!

Our featured performers include:


  • Suz deMello, a.k.a Sue Swift, is a best-selling, award-winning author of seventeen romance novels in several subgenres, including erotica, comedy, historical, paranormal, mystery and suspense, plus a number of short stories and non-fiction articles on writing.
  • Molly Weatherfield: "Twenty years ago, a mild-mannered computer programmer decided to spend some quality time with her erotic fantasy life, and Carrie's Story - BDSM for smart girls - was born."
  • Mistress Lorelei Powers is a well-known bi poly sadist and Domme. She is the author of several BDSM classics, including On Display, The Mistress Manual, and Charm School for Sissy Maids.
  • Blake C. Aarens is an author, poet, screenwriter, playwright, and a Black Girl Nerd.
  • Jean Marie Stine is the author of a number of pioneering works of erotica published in the late 1960 and early 1970s, beginning with Season of the Witch in 1968, which was filmed as the motion picture Synapse. Her erotic short stories and novelettes have been collected as "Trans-sexual: Fiction for Gender Queers."
  • A.M. Davis is a poet, artist and novelist who lives in Oakland, California. Her first novel, You Were Always Waiting For This Moment to Arise, as well as her first poetry collection, Six Lifetimes of Love, will be published in late 2014.
  • M.Christian is a recognized master of erotica with more than 400 stories in such anthologies as Best American Erotica, Best Gay Erotica, Best Lesbian Erotica, Best Bisexual Erotica, Best Fetish Erotica and many others.

Saturday, August 30th, 2014
The Center For Sex And Culture
1349 Mission St, San Francisco, CA 94103
Doors at 6PM, Event starts at 7PM
Admission: $10

*no guarantees

Getting’ Bigger? By R. Greco, Jr.


Getting’ Bigger?

So I just saw this crazy report that Apple is thinking of releasing a new iPad that is going to be…bigger? Am I just the only person who thinks it is kinda of nutty? Doesn’t it seem counterintuitive in this digital age when one of the advantages we have been touting all along is that our technology was making everything more portable and smaller? And here Apple is thinking of making one of their most popular items yet bigger? Certainly they are answering consumer need or anticipating them, something Steve Jobs’ company has pretty much done very well all along.
But bigger? Really?
I was in Las Vegas recently (and don’t ask me to tell you what happened there, you know the credo everyone lives by, let’s just say lots of stuff “stayed there” where I am concerned…mainly my money). But during my stay I did begin to noticed people lugging iPads just about everywhere to get great clear video and big pics, which prompted me to think, how much can you enjoy getting up and about if you are carrying a great big from-a-time-before-Landru (that’s for you Trek fans) tablet around with you?
And again, wasn’t the promise that all this stuff was going to get smaller?
The world is supposed to be ‘smaller’ with the advent of all the communication we have, but if anything we are truly communicating a lot less….or at least what we are communicating about has a lot less important. (Think I am being a Luddite, well be honest with yourself and consider the last time you truly got a text or Facebook prompt that was about anything important or needed you to reply to right that second.) The common man and woman might boast a social media presence, with lots of ‘likes,’ a bunch o’ Twitter followers, but when is the last time you got up off your ass and met a family member or friend for a cup of coffee, was ‘social’ with them in person. Our digital sphere is supposed to make us smarter and enjoy our lives more, but if anything we are addicted to our prompts, blurps and beeps and if you spend your time looking-up every blessed thing on Google how much thinking for yourself are you doing?
The world is not getting easier to negotiate, it is getting ever more complicated and our gadgets are growing.
Enjoy your extinction my droogs.

Friday, August 22, 2014

Relationships And The Scene Discussion/Support Group @ SF Citadel



Just wanted to share the cool news that the next Relationships And The Scene: A Discussion/Support Group is coming up on Monday, August 25th, at the SF Citadel.

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Occasionally people in "The Scene" forget that they are not just dealing with sexual play but human interactions and relationships as well. In this discussion and support group, participants will be encouraged to share their experiences in an open environment to receive support and understanding from others who may have experienced the same, or just similar, situations.

You're welcome to pack snacks/dinner and munch during the discussion!

Time: 7:30PM to 9:30PM
Location: SF Citadel, 181 Eddy Street, SF
Cost: $10
Dress: casual

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M.Christian has been an active participant in the San Francisco BDSM scene since 1988, and has been a featured presenter at the Northwest Leather Celebration, smOdyssey, the Center For Sex and Culture, The National Sexuality Symposium, San Francisco Sex Information, The Citadel, The Looking Glass, The Society of Janus, The Floating World, Winter Solstice, and lots of other venues. He has taught classes on everything from impact play, tit torture, bondage, how to write and sell erotica, polyamory, cupping, caning, and basic SM safety.

M.Christian is also a recognized master of BDSM erotica with more than 400 stories in such anthologies as Best American Erotica, Best Gay Erotica, Best Lesbian Erotica, Best Bisexual Erotica, Best Fetish Erotica, and many other anthologies, magazines, and other sites; editor of 2t anthologies such as the Best S/M Erotica series, Pirate Booty, My Love For All That Is Bizarre: Sherlock Holmes Erotica, and more; the collections Dirty Words, The Bachelor Machine, Love Without Gun Control, Rude Mechanicals, and more; and the novels Running Dry, The Very Bloody Marys, Me2, Finger's Breadth, Brushes, and Painted Doll. His site is www.mchristian.com

Sunday, August 10, 2014

Reminder: How To Create An Effective Online Profile Class For Good Vibrations!

Just a reminder that I'm gonna be teaching my class, How To Create An Effective Online Profile And Write Messages That Will Get Good Responses for Good Vibrations on Polk Street, in San Francisco on Thursday, August 14th!

Here are the details - see you there!



How To Create An Effective Online Profile And Write Messages That Will Get Good Responses

Thursday, August 14, 6:30-8:30pm
$20 in advance, $25 at the door
Tickets: http://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/794634

The world is the now the Internet ... and if you don't know how to use it then you are at a serious disadvantage in making any kind of connection: employment, social, artistic and – most of all – erotic. In this class, M. Christian will not just explore how to use the Internet and various sites as a resource to explore your own sexuality in any form, but also how to create an effective and alluring online profile. But creating a digital 'self' is only part of it: participants will also get tips on how to reach out in imaginative ways that will get a positive response, the important things that are too often forgotten and other social niceties that can be the difference between frustration and disappointment and having a wonderful and sexy time online!

Thursday, July 31, 2014

Chris and Ralph on E Books

So, Christian and I recorded our second installment last night...this one about E Books.

It felt like we could have jabbered on for another hour, really there is so much to cover when it comes to publishing and E Books these days. Whether one is writing/publishing erotica, non fiction engineering books or poetry, e-publishing is certainly part of the equation presently.

Yes, Chris and I will tend towards talking about erotica mostly (I'd say about 83.3 % of the time) but with lots of the ground we cover-publishing in the current market place, writing and whatever parts of the creative process we can opine on/over/about without getting too boring-we assume (as was proved last night) that a good amount of what we know is not genre specific.

Which I am tickled about really as we never want to exclude anybody from the equation (and from a purely selfish business stand point for Chris and I we can reach more people) of what we are about here.

We covered what Chris calls the 5 deadly sins of self E Book publishing, what are basically no no's as far as Amazon is concerned. This concerns erotica writers mostly but as Amazon is the E Book self publishing seemingly only game in town, it is good for writers of smut to heed Chris's good advice. We also covered the advantages of going with an E Book publisher-like Renaissance E Books who Chris and I write for (he works for them too) and what to expect when publishing in this manner and not in print (or along with print.)

There's lots to learn here, this is basically a brand new field and certainly Chris and I don't have all the answers, but we can at least trickle down some of our knowledge and maybe even prompt more questions...which we also welcome you to ask.

Yes, there will be more installments, we will keep you abreast of them and we certainly will get back to E Bookwriting and publishing I am sure.

Wednesday, July 30, 2014

Leather, Lace & Lust: An Evening Of Erotic Storytelling and Sexual Merriment

This is going to be a blast-and-a-half!  I'm helping to organize a fabulous reading at the Center For Sex And Culture on August 30th.  I'll be performing with all kinds of great erotica readers - it should be an amazing time!

http://www.sexandculture.org/


Leather, Lace & Lust: An Evening Of Erotic Storytelling and Sexual Merriment

Come one, come all* to an evening of lusty literature by many of the best erotica writers in the Bay Area!

From the tempting tease of delicate lace to the steamy heat of hardcore leather, these authors and performers will amuse, delight, and most of all excite you in all kinds of new and provocative ways; This is an evening of witty, carnal, and provocative literary endeavors that will tickle just about every kind of fancy, a festival of playful sensual fiction that will make you laugh, cry, and get that oh-so-special tingly feeling in your nether-regions.

In other words, a night of kick-ass erotica performed by ass-kicking writers!

Our featured performers include:


  • Suz deMello, a.k.a Sue Swift, is a best-selling, award-winning author of seventeen romance novels in several subgenres, including erotica, comedy, historical, paranormal, mystery and suspense, plus a number of short stories and non-fiction articles on writing.
  • Molly Weatherfield: "Twenty years ago, a mild-mannered computer programmer decided to spend some quality time with her erotic fantasy life, and Carrie's Story - BDSM for smart girls - was born."
  • Mistress Lorelei Powers is a well-known bi poly sadist and Domme. She is the author of several BDSM classics, including On Display, The Mistress Manual, and Charm School for Sissy Maids.
  • Blake C. Aarens is an author, poet, screenwriter, playwright, and a Black Girl Nerd.
  • Jean Marie Stine is the author of a number of pioneering works of erotica published in the late 1960 and early 1970s, beginning with Season of the Witch in 1968, which was filmed as the motion picture Synapse. Her erotic short stories and novelettes have been collected as "Trans-sexual: Fiction for Gender Queers."
  • A.M. Davis is a poet, artist and novelist who lives in Oakland, California. Her first novel, You Were Always Waiting For This Moment to Arise, as well as her first poetry collection, Six Lifetimes of Love, will be published in late 2014.
  • M.Christian is a recognized master of erotica with more than 400 stories in such anthologies as Best American Erotica, Best Gay Erotica, Best Lesbian Erotica, Best Bisexual Erotica, Best Fetish Erotica and many others.

Saturday, August 30th, 2014
The Center For Sex And Culture
1349 Mission St, San Francisco, CA 94103
Doors at 6PM, Event starts at 7PM
Admission: $10

*no guarantees

Thursday, July 24, 2014

Next Polyamory Discussion/Support Group At The Citadel

Just wanted to share the cool news that the next Polyamory Support/Discussion Group is coming up on Monday, July 28th

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Polyamory Discussion/Support Group

Polyamory is – not to state the obvious – complex. But what is even more challenging is that it is still not wildly accepted, with those in non-monogamous relationships often finding it difficult to find understanding and support. In this discussion/support group, polyamorous individuals and couples will have a nonjudgmental and supportive environment to share their concerns and experiences.

All Discussion/Support Groups are from 7:30PM to 9:30PM and cost $10

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M.Christian has been an active participant in the San Francisco BDSM scene since 1988, and has been a featured presenter at the Northwest Leather Celebration, smOdyssey, the Center For Sex and Culture, The National Sexuality Symposium, San Francisco Sex Information, The Citadel, The Looking Glass, The Society of Janus, The Floating World, Winter Solstice, and lots of other venues. He has taught classes on everything from impact play, tit torture, bondage, how to write and sell erotica, polyamory, cupping, caning, and basic SM safety.

M.Christian is also a recognized master of BDSM erotica with more than 400 stories in such anthologies as Best American Erotica, Best Gay Erotica, Best Lesbian Erotica, Best Bisexual Erotica, Best Fetish Erotica, and many other anthologies, magazines, and other sites; editor of 2t anthologies such as the Best S/M Erotica series, Pirate Booty, My Love For All That Is Bizarre: Sherlock Holmes Erotica, and more; the collections Dirty Words, The Bachelor Machine, Love Without Gun Control, Rude Mechanicals, and more; and the novels Running Dry, The Very Bloody Marys, Me2, Finger's Breadth, Brushes, and Painted Doll. His site is www.mchristian.com

How To Create An Effective Online Profile Class For Good Vibrations

This is very, very cool: I'm gonna be teaching my  class, How To Create An Effective OnlineProfile & Write Messages That Will Get Good Responses for Good Vibrations on Polk Street, in San Francisco in August!

Here are the details - see you there!





Thursday, August 14, 6:30-8:30pm
$20 in advance, $25 at the door

The world is the now the Internet ... and if you don't know how to use it then you are at a serious disadvantage in making any kind of connection: employment, social, artistic and – most of all – erotic. In this class, M. Christian will not just explore how to use the Internet and various sites as a resource to explore your own sexuality in any form, but also how to create an effective and alluring online profile. But creating a digital 'self' is only part of it: participants will also get tips on how to reach out in imaginative ways that will get a positive response, the important things that are too often forgotten and other social niceties that can be the difference between frustration and disappointment and having a wonderful and sexy time online!

The New Venture…and Why


I guess I could easily say it is because Chris and I love to hear ourselves talk (and that is part of it for sure) but this idea for a lecture series, theatre performance, master class, downloadable writing instruction, sharing of conversations, whatever the hell you want to call what we are on about here has been bubbling in our brains for a good long time now. Seeing as M. Christian (I call him Chris) lives on the west coast and me, Ralph Greco, Jr. (in Golum-like solidarity I call him Ralph) on the east, making time to present the full gewy live Bukkake of our duo pontificating is at times, hard to make happen. So we decided, ‘hey, let’s not define this thing, pigeon hole it in a has-to-happen this way and only here situation’ and have at the net to drop a few of our bon mots, let folks know we are ‘out here’ presenting our unique viewpoint on writing, selling erotica, revealing the intricacies of Shibari rope play or whatever else we can convince you that we are experts at.
Without the mutual respect we have for one another (some would say deep ‘man love’) and the assured knowledge (or delusion) that we might just have something to say about the subjects we’re saying something about, Chris and I are hoping to tickle interest for people to download our installments, come see us either solo or together when we give our talks or for those with the power to do so, reach out to hire us (yes, this is all about shameless promotion, doncha know?)
Do a search for our names in the ubiquitous Google search engine and cult (we are all over Amazon and the like and both write for the wonderful Jean Marie Stine and Renaissance E Books (see one of their lines here where Chris and I published often: https://sizzlereditions.com/). I think you will find that not just in erotic but in mainstream writing Chris and I present a combined ‘interesting’ resume (or again, I am just delusional.)
In this day and age where everybody not only has something to say about everything, but damn well do, believe me Christian and I will work hard not to simply talk for talk sake, but to present entertaining moments of our time no matter how long they be or in what format we produce them.
So here it starts, buckle-up friends. It’s either gonna be a high flying ride or the stuttering kiddie ride bump-and-jump of a five foot high rollercoaster at the still suffering Jersey Shore.
Love to all,
Ralph

Tuesday, July 22, 2014

M.Christian Presents Tit-Torture For Boobs: A Breast Play Intensive at the SF Citadel

This is gonna be a kick-and-a-half: I'm teaching my fun Breast Play class for the great Citadel on Tuesday, July 22nd

Tuesday, July 22, 2014 · 8:00 PM –10:00 PM 
SF Citadel, 181 Eddy St, San Francisco, CA
Cost: $20 at the door, $15 in advance
Dress code: Casual

Description:    

Breast play offers wonderful opportunities for intensely powerful play - but also comes with serious, even dangerous, risks. In this breasts-on seminar, participants will learn how to treat tits, both male and female, with exactly the right measure of sensuality and intensity to play well but also safely. Clothespins, nipple clamps, pinching, suction devices, gentle impact, bondage, and more will be demonstrated - as well as how to deliver effective aftercare. Additionally, participants will be given instruction in first aid, the dangers of breast play, and the limits of what boobs can take.

Class from 8-10pm, doors open at 7:30pm
Cost: $20 at the door, $15 in advance via PurplePass

About the presenter:
M.Christian has been an active participant in the San Francisco BDSM scene since 1988, and has been a featured presenter at the Northwest Leather Celebration, smOdyssey, the Center For Sex and Culture, The National Sexuality Symposium, QSM, San Francisco Sex Information, The Citadel, The Looking Glass, The Society of Janus, The Floating World, Winter Solstice, and lots of other venues. He has taught classes on everything from impact play, tit torture, bondage, how to write and sell erotica, polyamory, cupping, caning, and basic SM safety.

M.Christian is also a recognized master of BDSM erotica with more than 400 stories in such anthologies as Best American Erotica, Best Gay Erotica, Best Lesbian Erotica, Best Bisexual Erotica, Best Fetish Erotica, and many other anthologies, magazines, and other sites; editor of 2t anthologies such as the Best S/M Erotica series, Pirate Booty, My Love For All That Is Bizarre: Sherlock Holmes Erotica, and more; the collections Dirty Words, The Bachelor Machine, Love Without Gun Control, Rude Mechanicals, and more; and the novels Running Dry, The Very Bloody Marys, Me2, Finger's Breadth, Brushes, and Painted Doll. His site is www.mchristian.com